So Much BDSM, How Can I Choose??

With the soon to be upcoming craze of 50 Shades I feel the need to take an even deeper look at the BDSM genre.
Curiosity drives me I had to take a closer look.

A friend of mine was contemplating opening up her world, sexual world, and dabbling a little in the BDSM. She had “accidentally” tripped on to a man who was on the program and eager to bring in a newbie. She was a little nervous but consulted a couple friends for the really burning questions. He was very specific about what he wanted which was the first surprise. It was almost like it was scripted. “She was auditioning for a role” This was the way to look at it, to not be so nervous about it. Fear of the unknown and fear of pain. They were messaging back and forth. She realized that her usual methods of flirtation would not work with this person. Using the word cock in a sentence was not going to get her a follow up message. It was so unfamiliar.
Her big relief was when she found out there would be nothing painful would be done to her.  There would be spanking but she would have the pleasure. According to the script she was going to be the one in charge. She would be spanking but only with the hand and always over the knee. At first it would be over pants. Gradually it would work it’s way to bare ass. In between? He was to be sent to the corner. He was to be scolded while there and lectured on his misbehavior. He would not speak unless he was told to and he was not allowed to touch himself. She became a little concerned. “What if he called her Mommy?” Was this a mommy/son thing or was this a teacher/student, so many options. This made getting into character challenging, not to mention, she had never even spanked her kids. Did he want it hard? Did he want it to only sting a little? He said to chastise him in the corner. What was chastise? “Chastise is like what you would say when you are giving them trouble.” She had never put her kids in a corner, spanked, or chastised them. I mean you can only tell someone you are naughty or a bad boy so many times. It was time to get reinforcements. She contacted a couple gfs (myself included) and went to work.  This is where my curiosity kicked in so I took over the internet part. That is where I discovered that there are so many types of S&M and the one this guy was describing, with all the specifics, actually had a name.. Domestic Discipline. I couldn’t believe it had an actual name.
I got a better sense of what was the goal in this. I mean my friend was like, “Are we even going to have sex?” We didn’t know. “Do you walk right in playing the role or is there like a trigger word like ACTION?  “What should I wear?” We decided to take the secretary approach. Anything far away from being mommy.
I became the director and she became the actress.

SCENE
You are going to walk in there strong and confident. Follow his lead for a minute. That will be the only time he calls the shots. Walk into his room and take a look around. Find the corner you will want to use then tell him to go stand in it. If he asks anything, tell him to be quiet. Did you tell him to talk? Absolutely not. He will only talk when told to do so. I’m not sure what he will call you, hopefully not mom. I’m thinking either master/ma’am/mistress, I have no idea. Take a deep breath. Your goal is to humiliate but you use your sexuality to do it. Walk up to him, tell him he is naughty and let your breathe flow down his neck. Run your hands down his back, through his hair. What you want to do is find his triggers, the things that get him excited. Make a point of pointing it out if you see that it is working and tell him firmly that it is not allowed. He doesn’t deserve what you have. Walk over to the bed and reiterate how bad he is. Tell him to come over. Did he move his hands? Hands at the side! Did he start walking? Did you tell him to? See how naughty he is. It’s time for him to be bent over your knee. According to my notes, in between the spanks, it is good to rub the area softly. I guess it feels good after the sting. Make sure you spank him hard, a few times. Once it seems like he is starting to get excited, stop immediately. This is supposed to torture him. Tell him to get up. Make eye contact and tell him to take off his clothes. Keep the eye contact and make sure he looks at you. This is also supposed to be humiliating. There is supposed to be shame. You can play with him some more or put him back in the corner. He will only be in his underwear so you will be able to definitely tell if what you are doing is working. You can really start to have fun with him now. Nibble on the ear, run your lips down his back, gently grasp his ass and in between. Whisper to him how he doesn’t listen or do what he is supposed to. Is he getting excited again? Stop. Walk over to the middle of the room, tell him to undress you, if you want. Tell him to do it slowly, anyway you want him to. Underneath you will be wearing something very sexy. He will probably like that. What do you want him to do now? Send him back to the corner. Have him take off the underwear. Have him stand in front of you barenaked, again this is supposed to be shaming. When he is in the corner you can have even more fun with him. You can rub up against him, your breasts on his back. Your tongue anywhere and everywhere. If you are in the mood, give him a blow job but do not let him cum. You have to stop before. Remember…torture!
Now it’s all about you. Go back and order him to go down on you, for as long as you want. He wants to please you and be a good boy. (hehe) Make him earn it. After that it’s time for the bare ass spanking. Try not to dwell on the red marks. It’s what he is after. He wants it to hurt when he sits down. He wants to feel the pain as he goes through his day. He will probably be really turned on, wiggling around, hard as a rock…

At this point I couldn’t find anymore information online. The transition to sex. I told her to do whatever she wanted at that point. Hell..I don’t know! I just have print outs with sentences highlighted!

She came back empowered and excited. She had fun with it and was genuinely proud of herself. She was giddy with the success of her first encounter of Domestic Discipline. I think she has found her calling.